This year we’re focusing on positive masculinity to support a more positive culture on campus and in the wider Bristol community.
Ideas about what it means to be a man can shape how we see ourselves, how we treat other people and whether we feel able to ask for help.
That's why we've created Bristol Men. Throughout the year we'll be sharing simple ways to reach out to your mates, hosting events for you to meet new people, and introducing you to support networks. Together, we can help make Bristol a place where men feel able to talk about their mental health and support their mates.
Why we created Bristol Men
"What does it mean to be a man? We face societal pressures to ‘man up’, be strong, stay in control, and deal with things alone. These expectations make it harder to be open about our mental health, show vulnerability or admit when we need support. To me, strength can look like asking for help, listening to others and being honest about how you feel.
My hope is that Bristol Men will represent more than just mental health. I want it to be part of a wider change in how we build relationships, understand consent, look out for one another and create safer spaces on campus and across Bristol.
From my experience we are better equipped to treat others with care when we feel comfortable with who we are and the world around us. It is my belief that when we open up our boldness to show vulnerability will embolden others.
At Bristol SU, we want to help make that change happen. This Movember and International Men’s Day are an opportunity to get talking but these conversations matter all year round."
- Jasper, Equality, Liberation and Access Officer
Bristol Men we are starting the conversation. ‘You alright, mate?’
A simple question can make all the difference.
There’s no perfect thing to say, and you don’t need to have all the answers. Sometimes, the most important thing you can do is ask how someone’s doing, listen and remind them they’re not alone.
Let’s talk. Let’s listen. Let’s start the conversation.
How to start conversations with friends
Starting a conversation about mental health can feel daunting, especially if you’re not used to talking about how you feel. But it doesn’t have to be a big conversation, and you don’t need to find the perfect words.
It can start with a text, a walk, a coffee or a simple “You alright, mate?”
Not sure what to say? Try starting here:
- “Hey mate, just checking in. How are you?”
- “You’ve seemed a bit quiet lately. Want to chat about anything?”
- “Fancy going for a walk or grabbing a coffee? Would be good to catch up.”
- “No pressure to talk, but I’m here if you need me.”
- “How are things going at the moment?”
If a mate opens up:
- Listen, don’t “fix”
You don’t need to have all the answers. Give them space to talk without jumping straight into solutions.
- Ask, don’t assume
Everyone experiences things differently. Ask how they’re feeling rather than guessing what’s going on.
- Keep checking in
One conversation can help, but showing up again matters too.
- Know when to get extra support
You can be there for a friend without having to manage everything alone. You don’t have to be an expert to make a difference.
